I don’t know what to do.
You have probably said this a lot in the past, or even said it today. We make countless decisions each and every day of our lives, and some are more impor- tant than others. From what shoes to wear and what to eat for breakfast, to ma- jor career and relationship decisions. Meeta Vengapally, founder & CEO of Garnysh, a Silicon Valley-based fitness and technology company, believes that when you’re in the right mindset, decisions are easy. Let’s explore her approach.
If there’s anything that Meeta learned through the years, it’s that she can’t make good decisions when drowning in a negative energy field. When Meeta bypasses the forces within herself, and the forces surrounding her, that are negatively af- fecting her decision making, she effortlessly makes the courageous choice.
“When a child is learning how to walk and falls down 50 times, they never think to themselves, “Maybe this isn’t for me.””
Welcome to something Meeta calls, The Baby Mindset. Babies are a blank page. They won’t give up and they don’t even know what the concept is. Whenever Meeta approaches a big decision, she tries to clear her mind and call upon the determination of a small infant. It helps Meeta to realize that, if something with- in her is retreating in fear, she has been hijacked by negativity.
The Energy Forcefield
Whether you know it or not, you’re surrounded by a forcefield of energy, and the people and circumstances of your life are going to determine whether or not that field is clean or crap. When Meeta is seriously having trouble making deci- sions, or not making bold ones, more often than not it’s because her forcefield has become contaminated and she feels compelled to get rid of the things that are weighing her down. It takes a lot of self-reflection and honesty to get there, but it’s well worth the effort.
Outside the Box
When Meeta is super stressed about what to do next, or how to solve a problem, it’s really easy for her to not see the bigger picture. Thinking outside the box helps Meeta to remove herself from a stressful situation and really see that there are so many options that she couldn’t see before. When feeling like she’s in a corner, Meeta will write down all kinds of options, even if they seem crazy, be- cause it helps to expand her mind.
The Core of Meeta’s Belief System
For Meeta, core values and beliefs directly affect how she makes a decision. If she doesn’t believe in herself, and has programmed herself to fear failure, then Meeta’s decisions in life are going to reflect that. That’s why her core belief sys- tem is all about the power of taking chances, committing fully, detaching from the outcome, and always knowing that she can continue to grow as a wife, moth- er, and entrepreneur.
Meeta is fascinated by intuition! Where does it come from? How does she trust it? In her opinion, so much about intuition is learning to listen to yourself and the universe. We’re receiving information constantly, both from within and out- side of ourselves. Every day, Meeta makes a point of taking the time to listen to what her intuition is telling her, and this is particularly true when it comes to making tough decisions. If she has an important business decision in front of her, Meeta stops and listens. What is her gut telling her? And more importantly, does she have the courage to go with it? This is the most crucial element here, be- cause it’s one thing to listen to the truth within you, and it’s another thing to act
upon that truth. Listening to your intuition and allowing it to guide you is taking a leap of faith in yourself.
One of the most challenging elements of making tough decisions is fixation. Have you noticed how, when you need to make a choice about something, you’re obsessed with it? Meeta often is not able to get something off of her mind until it’s all sorted out. Although this is good because it forces her to act, the downside is that this fixation is unhealthy. If Meeta is faced with making a choice and seri- ously doesn’t know what to do, instead of obsessing over it, she finds that it’s best to step back and distract herself with something else. Doing things like go- ing for a walk, playing with her kids, or getting a massage help her to put her mind in a different place, so that when she returns to the decision she has to make, her mind is clear, the stress and pressure are lessened, and Meeta can make her choice from a more peaceful, mindful place.
Speaking of being mindful, it’s impossible to make a good decision when you’re going out of your mind. Say you have some kind of family decision to make, and the kids are running around the house having tantrums, there’s absolutely no way that your brain is going to function properly. In times like these, it’s impor- tant that to find a way to practice mindfulness. It sounds sort of New-Agey, but Meeta believes that being mindful is really just about being conscious of your thoughts and feelings. If you’re stressed and have to make a business decision, you may not be able to make the stress go away, but at least you can be mindful of it. Take the time to be present so that you can examine your thoughts and feelings about any given situation.
Last but not least, we’re going to talk a little bit about fear. Fear is the driving force for avoiding decisions altogether, and that’s because fear and failure go hand-in-hand. Meeta says that fear is the most gripping kind of negativity. If she wants to do something, and fear is seriously holding her back from making the decision to go for it, she starts examining. How was that fear implanted in her?
Did she create it, or did someone else put it there? This little examination of fear will help anyone to get to the heart of things, so that they can break through and move forward.
“I don’t know what to do.”
You might still be saying this to yourself. Maybe you have to make a major ca- reer decision, or you just don’t know what career to choose at all. Meeta wants to leave you with these key tips:
- Banish Negativity: Seriously, it’s killing you. Figure out where it’s coming from.
- Embrace the Baby Mindset: Create a literal clean slate in your mind. If you need to medicate to get it clear, so be it. Just remember that babies don’t say no to the challenge of life.
- Examine Your Beliefs: What you believe about yourself will become true. Don’t embrace false beliefs about yourself. Someone else put them there.
- Step Back and Be Mindful: When making decision, you need to come from a clear place. Your intuition can guide you in so many things, but you have to be in a peaceful place to listen to it. It’s important to step back and gain perspective on what it is that you’re trying to decide.
- Fear is Horrible . . . and Awesome: When all else fails, know that when you’re making a decision that fills you with healthy fear, you’re taking one of the most important steps in your life.